Well the other day I was thinking all about love, lust, infatuation, crush, flings and feelings, it triggered my atom sized brain into a series of fission reaction churning out my own description about this unusually usual term called 'LOVE'!!!
So what is this thing called LOVE?
I completely fail to understand the voracity and aggressiveness of the term Love. I also fail to understand the overhyped ideas that have been conceptualized about this stereotypical concept of love around us. Then why is it confused with fidelity? Why is it used as a synonymous to fidelity!!! Why does love in our society only mean caring, being faithful to one person, getting married to the same person, laying below or above them, pumping out kids and loving those kids and bringing them up in a perfect stereotypical family environment (which has to be a benchmark of a perfect couple). Why is being adventurous after marriage is such a taboo??? Getting attracted towards another colleague with whom you can relate more than your better half, having a secret crush or a fantasy or getting attracted/ infatuated to your fiancés' brother, imagining your favorite actor in place of your husband whilst making love....... The list goes on- but all these things get summated in just one simple word TABOO.....
Why are mistresses looked upon as if they are some kind of liability on this planet? Why are their feelings inferior, outlawed and forbidden? Vis-a-vis a legal wife's feelings for her husband! Are they any different in any biological or scientific way? Aren't both being equally human and have equal rights to feel and care for their love, crave for their partner's physical presence. But our hypocrite society will never accept this fact!!! (which is so true)
I distinctly remember the funky remark that we used to pass during our morning school pledge- "All Indians are my brothers and sisters- except one." Even during those days of our weird radical philosophies of "we don't need no education" burning in our minds, one thing was drilled straight down our skulls into our pea sized brains by this brutal society- that we will have only one partner in our whole life, one husband, one spouse, one beau- only ONE!!!
Why is this topic of SEX such a taboo under all the religions in INDIA? Why is it considered a sin to look at a person of other gender and praising their beauty or a quality? Why caring about someone is considered to be a prosecution of being in love and why are men considered to be dogs that pick up any bitch on their way to heal their lust or females are considered to be lose charactered ones? Which other animal or for that matter any other living being other than us follow "ONE PARTNER CONCEPT"? In fact nature itself has imbibed on the concept of multiplication which we accurately term as the mating season which differs from one being to another. Why is it a sin to look at any other guy once have committed into a relationship, when since centuries nature itself in its abundance has left us to savage and devour its beauty and tranquility?
I do not drive my thoughts towards formation of a new society where anybody can just sleep with anyone of their choice. I am not being so juvenile and illogical. But all I want is an answer as to why being in love with someone from the bottom of your heart means that you still have place for someone in your heart and you already have a committed partner in some other corner of the world??? Is believing your instincts and following your heart's voice a sin? Don't we change our durables at least once in a year to keep up with the latest trends and technology? Don't we look for a variety of food in our daily meals to avoid boredom and also to fulfill our nutritional needs at the same point of time? So why can't we just simply get bored with our respective partners and expect some spicy change in them? OHH SHIT!!! I think even mentioning the term "BORED" is a sin in our society of humane societal values. Is dragging ourselves with someone whom you despise from the bottom of your heart is true humanity or is following your free will!!!
I do agree that a world where everyone starts ogling and running behind every other attractive person of the opposite sex or even same sex Sounds utterly chaotic, muddled, messy and disorganized. I am not asking anyone to start adopting the animal or tribal ways of living. All I am trying to point out is the archaic principles which are being simply followed for no reason and no rhyme. All am requesting or rather pressing upon is chucking the antiquated beliefs which are being driven erroneously on the beautiful concept of LOVE. Is this maniac concept which we believe in actually LOVE? My views would be surely heavily criticized by people who have always lived under the umbrella of these wrongly milted concepts and am equally sure that maximum readers would associate their own lives and relationships with the questions asked above (though they are all unanswered).
I am myself not sure as to what is RIGHT or WRONG and moreover I am the part of the same insane society and a social animal fleet.
In the end all I want to say is, "LOVE after LOVE is completely possible, moral and normal; lust after love is slightly possible and very normal though." (A very sweet and close friend of mine told me once).
